Forbidden Words

Is there such thing as a forbidden word? I know as a society we have sensitivities to the what words mean to others and the potential impact those words may have on perspectives about who we are as individuals. Interestingly enough, I believe I have one sanctuary in this world, my home. Where forbidden words can be openly and freely discussed or used. No judgment, it is my home. The only place I am truly allowed to be me, ME…not what my work environment expects, not my in-laws home, not my mothers, or even dinner at a fancy restaurant. My home protects me from being judged, or at least it should. Why are forbidden words used as a crutch to chastise or judge others? They are words, and the only meaning or power they have is what we as humans give them. Nothing more. I know this is why we have the 5th Amendment to the United States Constitution, Freedom of Speech. What does that actually mean anymore? As an adult, I struggle with being true to myself while maintaining an expectation of respectability. Ironically, my education, job status, or historically ‘clean’ record of love, kindness, and openness doesn’t matter. WHY? What have we become when in our own homes we could be so cruelly treated like we have crossed the road to rendition and commit the ultimate sin. I don’t believe in sin, that would mean I believe in judgment of outside forces or afterlife. My beliefs are not on the table for discussion, however, the judgment by others and the continued use of forbidden words that impact my sanctuary is. Forbidden words are in direct conflict with whom I am as an individual. Nothing in my world is taboo or off-limits, I don’t care about race, color, age, creed or gender. I am willing to accept and be accepted – regardless of the words used or said.

 

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The beginning of thoughtful evolution

We begin every day with a thought. What to wear, what to do, what to eat. As we learn more about ourselves and our surrounding environment we adapt our thoughts to be more relevant to the continuing evolution. Therefore, this is the beginning of my thoughts evolving, like my hair, my personality, my skin, and my age.

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While knowing, in some mindful capacity, we evolve from one stage in life to another. What we do to collectively share what we retain of mindful thinking may be about what is going on around us, what is within us, and most importantly, what is impacting us. This means being honest about where or who we are and what we believe about where we are going. Evolving into something more like we want, or more what we believe, or just more than what we are today. Whether in seriousness or just passing parody, it’s a great way to start the conversation!

So what are you doing about evolving your mindful thoughts?

Are your thoughts so caught up in just surviving that you mindlessly think about things you have to do? Are you effortlessly ‘just doing’ what you don’t have to think about? Yeah, I have been there, daily. I am not talking about thinking to solve world peace, but good for you if that is what you think about daily or at least annually. I am talking about the mindful thoughts about YOU. Who you are – to you. Do you think about how you talk to yourself or treat yourself? Maybe you do too much of that, think about yourself or maybe you don’t do it enough. Maybe, you do not mindfully think about anything but yourself. However, if you do, you might not actually know you do or admit that you do…so we move forward with what we know and believe. So let’s begin with thoughtfully evolving a thought.

How do you evolve a thought? Great question! We are all different but still learn in the same manner, by doing.

So right now stop thinking about multiple things, and just have one mindful thought. Yes, it can be about your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/significant other, your job, or even your dog. Point being, you have only one thought. Now think about that chosen thought, and think about what you originally thought about that topic a month ago or a year ago and continue to go back until you see how your thoughts evolved to now.  It’s meant to be a fun exercise, not a chore!

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For example, today I was thinking about my education and where I want to go with it. Which led me thinking about how much time and energy I spend on ‘learning’. So I thought for a while HOW I got to my current belief and understanding about my education. Then WHAM! I got a dose of thoughtful evolution to my current state of mind about something I have been thinking about, consciously and unconsciously, all my life. Those horrible years of trying to be smarter than someone believe I would never be, leading me to today. Today, which could be any day for many years, where I mindfully want to evolve my thoughts to begin a new journey. I want to be thoughtful about my life, my choices, my unfathomable need to learn, and my future.

So please join me on a journey to find out things…yes, things. I don’t know what they will be but I do know they will be thoughtful and fun. Evolution is more than what or where we ‘think’ we came from.