Forbidden Words

Is there such thing as a forbidden word? I know as a society we have sensitivities to the what words mean to others and the potential impact those words may have on perspectives about who we are as individuals. Interestingly enough, I believe I have one sanctuary in this world, my home. Where forbidden words can be openly and freely discussed or used. No judgment, it is my home. The only place I am truly allowed to be me, ME…not what my work environment expects, not my in-laws home, not my mothers, or even dinner at a fancy restaurant. My home protects me from being judged, or at least it should. Why are forbidden words used as a crutch to chastise or judge others? They are words, and the only meaning or power they have is what we as humans give them. Nothing more. I know this is why we have the 5th Amendment to the United States Constitution, Freedom of Speech. What does that actually mean anymore? As an adult, I struggle with being true to myself while maintaining an expectation of respectability. Ironically, my education, job status, or historically ‘clean’ record of love, kindness, and openness doesn’t matter. WHY? What have we become when in our own homes we could be so cruelly treated like we have crossed the road to rendition and commit the ultimate sin. I don’t believe in sin, that would mean I believe in judgment of outside forces or afterlife. My beliefs are not on the table for discussion, however, the judgment by others and the continued use of forbidden words that impact my sanctuary is. Forbidden words are in direct conflict with whom I am as an individual. Nothing in my world is taboo or off-limits, I don’t care about race, color, age, creed or gender. I am willing to accept and be accepted – regardless of the words used or said.

 

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Loose-fitting Love

In our life we find, keep, throw, use, abuse, lose, squash, show, hide, squeeze, build, cherish, and seek love. Why is it seemingly so easy and so hard at the time? Can love be the one thing that could bring world peace? I see so many opportunities to have love be a glove that fits us during all aspects of our life. Is love fleeting or does it seem so, depending on what side of the fence you see it from?

The mind is capable of amazing things, but the heart is capable of a mind-blowing extraordinary phenomenon. Together they can make, break, or destroy all that is designed. The will to think or love is even more extraordinary than the heart. Your will controls how, when, where or why your mind and heart see, feel or react to life. Many forget this controlling mechanism that is truly an important visionary to being love, giving love, and keeping your wits about you.

I seek insight; not into love or the mind but the will that is truly the keeper of how love and thoughts fit us. I know, sappy right? However, I am taking this a step further. I am seeking how a person’s pure will can dictate, determine, direct, or delineate from what the heart desires or the mind covets. Why? Why not, I ask. So many painful and joyous journeys, does anyone believe that love – whether tightly bound or loose-fitting – is truly a product of our own free will?